The “Someday Syndrome”

It’s no secret that I love my work. I love all things that equate to people development and business improvement- especially when the two go hand-in-hand.

But in all of my professional experience as a management consultant and executive coach (and formerly on Active Duty in the United States Army counseling Soldiers and their Families), I’ve come across one problem that seems to permeate society and drain happiness from even the most fortunate of people. I call it the “Someday Syndrome”.

Being happy is often the hardest goal for most people I know.

We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren’t old enough and we’ll be more content when they are. Life continues on.

After that we’re frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with, and we will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage.

We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together or finally gets that promotion, when we get a nicer car, when we are able to go on a nice vacation, or when we retire.

The truth is there’s no better time to be happy than right NOW. 
If not now, when?

Your life will always be filled with challenges. It’s best to admit this to yourself 
and decide to be happy anyway. One of my favorite quotes comes from Alfred D. Souza, so he’ll be providing the Monday Morning Perspective for the week.

 

Monday Morning Perspective

“For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin. My real life. 
But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life.” – Alfred D. Souza

This perspective has helped me to see that there is no “way” to happiness. 
Happiness IS the way to having a meaningful and fulfilling life, 
so treasure every moment that you have.

And treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, 
special enough to spend your time with when you remember that time waits for no one.

So stop waiting until you finish school, until you go back to school, until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until you get a new car or home, until your car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until fall, until winter, until you are off welfare or assistance, until the first or fifteenth, until your song comes on, until you’ve had a drink, until you’ve sobered up, until you die, or until you are born again to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy.

Happiness is a journey, not a destination.

So as they say, “Work like you don’t need money. 
Love like you’ve never been hurt and dance like no one’s watching!”

For those of you that know me personally, you’ll know that I struggle with the first two, but have the third one fairly mastered. Come dance with me.

Have a wonderful week!

 

Warmest Regards,

Crystal Dyer

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