As an executive coach and consultant I often receive questions from client as to why things always seem to be so challenging. With difficult economic times and an unsteady business market, it’s no wonder that my clients are worried. Yet, I like to remind them that our country has survived much more difficult times, and smart businesses and people manage to overcome challenges despite the fluctuating markets. In fact, I like to point out that nature is often our greatest teacher when it comes to lessons to live by. The following story illustrates my point:
A man found a cocoon of an emperor moth. He took it home so that he could watch the moth emerge from the cocoon. On the day a small opening appeared, he sat and watched the moth for several hours as the moth struggled to force the body through that little hole.
The moth seemed to be stuck and appeared to have stopped making progress. It seemed as if it had gotten as far as it could- and it could go no further. The man, in his kindness, decided to help the moth; so he took a pair of scissors and snipped off the remaining bit of the cocoon. The moth then emerged easily. But its body was swollen and small, its wings wrinkled and shriveled. The man continued to watch the moth because he expected that at any moment the wings would enlarge, expand, and able to support the body, which he thought would contract in time. Neither happened!
In fact, the little moth spent the rest of its life crawling around with a small, swollen body and shriveled wings. It never was able to fly. The man in his kindness and haste did not understand that the struggle required for the moth to get through the tiny opening was necessary to force fluid from the body of the moth into its wings so that it would be ready for flight upon achieving its freedom from the cocoon. Freedom and flight would only come after the struggle. By depriving the moth of a struggle, he deprived the moth of a healthy life.
Monday Morning Perspective
“The tragedy of life is not so much what men suffer, but rather what they miss. “~Thomas Carlyle
“God writes a lot of comedy… the trouble is, he’s stuck with so many bad actors who don’t know how to play funny.” ~Garrison Keillor
“Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we’re here we should dance.” ~Author Unknown
Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in life. If we were to go through our life without any obstacles, we would be crippled. We would not be as strong as what we could have been. Give every opportunity a chance, leave no room for regrets, and don’t forget the power that comes from a struggle.
Before you ask for someone to give you the answer, or before you choose to point others toward one- ask yourself which will be more valuable- the answer or the search for it. We seek to alleviate struggles and yearn to avoid challenges, but in truth it’s the struggles and challenges that give us the strength to realize our potential in life. Forget avoiding tough times- tackle them with determination!
Find your strength through your struggles!
Have a wonderful week!
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