Last week I took my children to a restaurant for dinner, a rare treat since my husband deployed to Afghanistan last fall.

As our food was placed on the table, my six-year-old son, Aidan, asked if he could say grace.
 As we clasped hands and bowed our heads he said in a loud (not-so-suited for indoors voice),  “God is great. God is good.  Lord we thank you for the food,  and I would thank you even more if  Mom gets us ice cream for dessert.  With liberty and justice for all! In Jesus’ name, Amen!”

Along with the chuckles of laughter from the waitress and other customers nearby, I overheard a woman remark,  “That’s what’s wrong with this country.  Kids today don’t even know how to pray.  Asking God for ice cream! Why, I never!”

Hearing the woman’s harsh remarks, my son’s eyes welled up with tears and he asked me,  “Did I do it wrong? Is God mad at me?”

As I slid into the booth next to him, I held him close and assured him that he had done a terrific job and God was certainly not mad at him. As he wiped his eyes, an elderly gentleman approached our table with a twinkle in his eyes.  He winked at my son and said,
 “I happen to know that God thought that was a great prayer.”

“Really?” my son asked.

“Cross my heart.” the man replied.

Then he leaned in toward my son and in a theatrical whisper he added (indicating the woman whose remark had started this whole thing), “Too bad she never asks God for ice cream.  A little ice cream is good for the soul sometimes.”

Naturally, I bought my kids ice cream at the end of the meal.  As my 4-year-old grabbed his spoon and began to shovel heaps of ice cream into his mouth, Aidan just stared at his for a moment and then did something I will remember for the rest of my life.

He picked up his sundae and without a word, walked over and placed it in front of the woman. With a big smile he told her, 
”Here, this is for you. Ice cream is good for the soul sometimes; and since my Mommy says my soul is already good, you can have mine.”

Stifling laughter and beaming with pride, I hugged my oldest son when he returned to our table.

And do you want to know the best part? She ate it!!!

She also smiled softly at my sweet boy on her way out the door.

 

Monday Morning Perspective

“A tree is known by its fruit; a man by his deeds. A good deed is never lost; he who sows courtesy reaps friendship, and he who plants kindness gathers love.”

Saint Basil

“You cannot do a kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

Even my six-year-old understands that kindness can cure most things. He proved it with a dish of ice cream.

What bad feelings or misunderstanding could you kill with kindness today? Sometimes a simple “I’m sorry” goes a long, long way. And if it doesn’t, then perhaps you could try ice cream.

Have a wonderful week!

 

Warmest Regards,

Crystal Dyer

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From the bombing in Boston, Massachusetts to the explosion in West, Texas- to a local high school where a teenager attempted to commit suicide with a gun brought to school in a backpack- to the deadly shooting in Seattle that claimed the lives of five more- this country has borne its fair share of heartache from coast to coast.

I can’t begin to understand why there is such evil in the world, but I am always awed by the amount of good that is on display to counteract it. Images of the citizens of Boston flooding into the streets to hold hands, light candles, and sing the National Anthem were bittersweet. The support for the families whose homes were destroyed in the blast in West continues to pour out from across Texas. The law enforcement personnel investigating these events press onward in their investigations so that we can prevent tragedies like these from happening again.

As Americans, it’s time to open our arms and hearts and bind together to make what was broken whole again. Our history is rich with examples of our nation doing exactly that. We are the home of the free because of the brave- before, during, and most-importantly after- tragedy strikes.

A man by the name of Dean Alfange was a fan of poetry like myself. He read a work written by Edgar A. Guest called “My Creed” and summarized what it meant to him by saying the following bold words:

” I do not choose to be a common man. It is my right to be uncommon. I seek to develop whatever talents God gave me—not security. I do not wish to be a kept citizen, humbled and dulled by having the state look after me. I want to take the calculated risk; to dream and to build, to fail and to succeed. I refuse to barter incentive for a dole. I prefer the challenges of life to the guaranteed existence; the thrill of fulfillment to the stale calm of utopia. I will not trade freedom for beneficence nor my dignity for a handout. I will never cower before any earthly master nor bend to any threat. It is my heritage to stand erect, proud and unafraid; to think and act myself, enjoy the benefit of my creations and to face the world boldly and say – ‘This, with God’s help, I have done.’ All this is what it means to be an American.”

The poem he read is today’s Monday Morning Perspective.

 

Monday Morning Perspective

 

My Creed by Edgar A. Guest

To live as gently as I can;

To be, no matter where, a man;

To take what comes of good or ill,

And cling to faith and honor still;

To do my best, and let that stand

The record of my brain and hand;

And then, should failure come to me,

Still work and hope for victory.

To have no secret place wherein

I stoop unseen to shame or sin;

To be the same when I’m alone

As when my every deed is known;

To live undaunted, unafraid

Of any step that I have made;

To be without pretense or sham

Exactly what men think I am.

To leave some simple work behind

To keep my having lived in mind;

If enmity to aught I show,

To be an honest, generous foe;

To play my little part, nor whine

That greater honors are not mine.

This I believe is all I need

For my philosophy and creed.

 

Regardless of what life throws at us, we should strive to be the best versions of ourselves daily. We are called to serve one another, be uplifting to one another, and to share burdens with one another.

To me, that is what being from the land of the free is all about. We are braver and better together.

Have a wonderful week.

 

Warmest Regards,

Crystal Dyer

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In the summer of 2012 a young Australian golfer walked off the 18th green of the final round of the British Open. He’d just bogeyed the last four holes of the event to give Ernie Els the victory with a mere one-shot lead. Some said he threw it away. Others said it was the curse of Greg Norman. If any of the last four holes had gone differently, he might have won.

That man’s name was Adam Scott. He lost the British Open, but did so with dignity and grace. Afterwards, while being interviewed by reporters, he promised to finish stronger if given another chance. He said, “Next time- and I’m sure there will be a next time- I can do a better job of it.”

He meant those words. He believed them wholeheartedly. He did not let the setback of the loss at the British Open stand in the way of his future successes. He did that by ridding those memories powerless by saying that he would do better next time.

And for those of you that follow golf, you know that “the next time” has very much arrived for Adam Scott.

This past weekend, at one of the most challenging and revered golf tournaments in the world, The Masters at Augusta, Adam Scott put his belief into action.

Amidst significant drama in the field- like the penalty given to 14-year-old Guan Tianlang  (that nearly kept him from making the cut and setting a record) and the penalty and following controversy of the illegal drop made by Tiger Woods- Adam Scott played his game.

After the first hole in the final round, Scott never made another bogey. His two last putts of the day were works of art- one of them being over 20 feet long for birdie.

And when the crowd erupted with his victory, making him the first Aussie to ever win the Masters Tournament, Adam Scott showed that he was just as gracious in victory as he’d been in defeat. He and his opponent, Angel Cabrera, walked off the final green with their arms around each other.

 

Monday Morning Perspective

“Fear defeats more people than any other one thing in the world.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson

“What the mind can conceive and believe, and the heart desire, you can achieve.” - Norman Vincent Peale

 

 Adam Scott certainly showed what self-belief can accomplish, and I’m certain his country will be welcoming him home as the hero he is. But his victory is so much more than a green jacket. He made a promise to himself and kept it. I can’t wait to see what else he plans to accomplish!

So why do we let one loss or defeat become a permanent mark for us? Why not think like Adam Scott, that when given another opportunity we’ll make the best of it using all that we’ve learned from our previous experiences- both good and bad?

Having belief in one’s self is the most critical success factor. You have to believe that you can accomplish what’s set before you. You must know that you are called to a higher purpose, perfected by your experiences, and shaped by your beliefs. Others might be able to encourage you to begin a journey, but only you have the ability to make sure that you finish the race set before you. Don’t you want to finish well?

Self-belief is the root of confidence. Confidence is the outward expression that the rest of the world gets to see. You might be able to fake confidence, but that won’t secure your success. Success comes to those who walk confidently into the world knowing that their dreams are within reach.

As they say, the first sale is always to yourself!

Have a wonderful week!

 

Warmest Regards,

Crystal Dyer

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Margaret Thatcher    1925-2013

When the strutting head of a military junta, General Leopold Galtieri, invaded the Falkland Islands, most British citizens had to rush to their atlases to find out just where the islands were.

The government appeared to be equally taken by surprise – so much so that the Foreign Secretary, Lord Carrington, resigned.

There followed a frantic round of shuttle diplomacy, brokered by the United States.

To the astonishment of people in Britain, to the dismay of the Argentinians, and to the amazement of the United States and the rest of the world, Britain assembled a task force to sail to the South Atlantic.

It looked like Lord Palmerston’s Gunboat Diplomacy had returned, that Britain was somehow trying to recapture its colonial past, a final hurrah of an Empire on which the sun had set decades before.

The crisis became a defining moment of Margaret Thatcher’s premiership, and changed her image and her political fortunes.

Before April 2, 1982, when the junta in Buenos Aires ordered the invasion of the Falkland islands – called Las Malvinas by the Argentines – opinion polls showed her to be the most unpopular Prime Minister ever as her approval rating had fallen below 25%.

Margaret Thatcher was the first (and only) female to serve England as Prime Minister. She was unafraid to deploy forces and demonstrate that she would not be pushed nor her people tampered with (however far away they might reside from her seat in Government).

The British forces she deployed struck fear into the assembled Argentine army conscripts who stood little chance against the highly-trained British Paras and Royal Marine Commandos. They left a wake behind them besting the invading forces more than two to one. With several strong (but highly divisive) choices, including the sinking of the Argentine Cruiser General Belgrano by the nuclear-powered British submarine, the HMS Conqueror, the responding British forces recaptured the Falkland islands and South Georgia.

The Iron Lady’s popularity soared, allowing her to call a general election in 1983 which she won by a landslide.

Monday Morning Perspective

“If you set out to be liked, you would be prepared to compromise on anything at any time, and you would achieve nothing.”

-Margaret Thatcher 

“Being powerful is like being a lady. If you have to tell people you are, you aren’t.” 

-Margaret Thatcher

Margaret Thatcher was not only an impeccable leader who served as one of the United States’ strongest allies in bringing down the Iron Curtain, but she set an example for those who seek to accomplish things which have yet to be done.

A woman had never served as Prime Minister. She rose to the challenge.

A woman had never commanded British Forces. She did and won a strategic victory in her first campaign and never allowed herself to be bullied or pressured by impending threats for the duration of her career.

She didn’t wait for doors to be opened for her or for everyone to agree with her. She acted upon her convictions, spoke her mind, and stuck to her guns. She was a formidable opponent, and an even better ally.

With her sudden passing, there’s no doubt the world has lost a true leader. She and her tenacity will be greatly missed, but her legacy will serve to inspire leaders for centuries to come.

May we be among them.

Have a wonderful week!

Warmest Regards,

Crystal Dyer

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ISSN: 2158-1355

A private school in Texas recently faced a unique problem. A number of 12-year-old girls were beginning to use lipstick, and to avoid parental detection they waited until arriving at school to put it on in the bathroom.

That was fine, but after they put on their lipstick, they would press their lips to the mirror leaving dozens of little lip prints. Every night, the maintenance man would remove them and the next day, the girls would put them back.

Finally, the principal decided to do something. She called all the girls to the bathroom and met them there with the maintenance man.

She explained that all these lip prints were causing a major problem for the custodian who had to spend an abundance of his time cleaning the mirrors every night.

To demonstrate how difficult it had been to clean the mirrors, she asked the maintenance man to show the girls how much effort was required.

He took out a long-handled squeegee, dipped it in the toilet, and cleaned the mirror with it. Since then, there have been no lip prints on the mirror.

There are teachers, and then there are educators!

 

Monday Morning Perspective

“If I am walking with two other men, each of them will serve as my teacher. I will pick out the good points of the one and imitate them, and the bad points of the other and correct them in myself.” –Confucius

 

The qualities of a great educator are very similar to those of a great leader.

Frequently we hear about positional leaders who deliver an edict from a boardroom that fails to be implemented to the lowest level in their organization, and somehow these leaders are shocked by the lack of buy-in and overall execution of their subordinates.

Demonstrative Leaders rarely have this problem. In the military, it is expected that people be on time for everything- formations, meetings, training events, end of day accountability, etc. When the highest-ranking individual tells everyone what time they plan to arrive, there is typically a domino effect down the ranks.

For instance, when the battalion commander (Lt. Colonel) tells the company commanders (Captains) that he/she will arrive at 9am, the company commanders mentally plan to arrive at 8:30am and tell their platoon leaders (Lieutenants) as much. The Lieutenants tell their platoon sergeants (Sergeants First Class) to be ready to go by 8am. Those platoon sergeants communicate to their squad leaders (Staff Sergeants) and Team Leaders (Sergeants/Corporals) to be ready by 7:45am. Therefore all of their Soldiers are expected to arrive no later than 7:30am.

So that’s how 1500 people can arrive “on time” for an event with just one leader setting an example. Demonstrating standards in the military is the equivalent of educating your people on what the expectations for performance are in corporate industry.

If you will show your people what the expectations are, you’ll be amazed at how they will magically meet them- usually well before the “drop-dead” date. But if you’re standing back scratching your head wondering where it went sideways, I suggest you ask yourself if you are just teaching or truly educating those you are responsible for leading.

Have a wonderfully educational week!

 

Warmest Regards,

Crystal Dyer

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A few months ago I received a request from an Executive Manager at a Fortune 500 company. This manager called me in to do a third-party strategic analysis of his team under the auspices of improving communication and performance amongst his direct reports. His chief complaints were nothing out of the ordinary: interpersonal conflict amongst team members; lack of mid-level leadership; no team follow through; and significant performance declination from the team as a collective group. During our initial assessments, it became quite clear that the manager was the direct cause of a significant majority of the strife within the team’s operating environment. He was completely disconnected from those he was supposed to be leading.

At that point I was left with two “right” options for handling the situation. As the manager was the one retaining me to assist his team, I could have certainly completed the contractual services for his direct reports and placed my observations in the exit report in hopes that he would read and implement my recommendations, and that would have been a “contractually acceptable” thing to do. Yet in my eyes, I wasn’t the “right” thing to do. Instead of brushing it under the table, I went with option two- the direct approach. I scheduled an appointment with him at his office, and arrived ready to take heat from both barrels.

I relayed my observations about his inability to effectively communicate with his team and the impact that was making on his employees’ abilities to perform. He immediately began to give a lengthy defense of his skills as a supervisor- to include what he referred to as “impeccably personal” communication skills. In realizing that our meeting was going to run long, he asked me to wait for a few moments while he moved the staff meeting back by thirty minutes. As all of his direct reports were located in cubicles in direct sight of his corner office, I assumed that he would get up and walk over to tell them about the change. Instead, he flipped on his monitor and began to type an Outlook calendar request modification. With a smile, I asked him if he considered that to be an impeccably personal form of team communication- to which he paused, thought, and consequently hired me.

Monday Morning Perspective

“Perception is strong and sight weak. In strategy it is important to see distant things as if they were close and to take a distanced view of close things.”  - Unknown

“Wisdom is knowing what to do next; virtue is doing it.”  -David Star Jordan

 

There will eventually come a time in life where both choices you are presented with are “right” in their own respect. The challenge lies in deciphering which choice is most right. In the instance above, I had to ask myself what the real goal of the project was going to be: 1. Giving that leader a “check-the-block” development course that would produce only marginal results that were outside of his range of influence, or 2. A program that would revolutionize his team and their performance if he’d actually get on board and make the same changes in himself that he expected of his employees. The answer was obviously the latter, although conveying that point to the client was the tricky part. He could have chosen not to hire me and to bring in someone else who was happy to placate him with a fluffy team program. Instead, he recognized the path I’d chosen and decided to take a stroll down development lane with his team. He made the tough, “right” choice, and his team benefitted greatly.

This week I challenge you to stop avoiding growth opportunities that you are presented with just because you have a lighter, fluffier “right choice” available to you. Dig in, do the work, and reap the rewards!

Have a wonderful week!

Warmest Regards,

Crystal Dyer

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I know you’ve seen them. You’ve likely worked with one. If you have, you’ve felt the frustration of trying to get things done while also managing what I refer to as “The Toddler Temperament”.

Let’s examine the Property Laws of Toddlers:

1. If I like it, it’s mine.

2. If it’s in my hand, it’s mine.

3. If I can take it from you, it’s mine.

4. If I had it a little while ago, it’s mine.

5. If it’s mine, it must never appear to be yours in any way.

6. If I am doing or building something, all the pieces are mine.

7. If it looks like mine, it is mine.

8. If I saw it first, it’s mine.

9. If you are playing with something and you put it down it automatically becomes mine.

10. If it’s broken, it’s yours.

Have you ever worked with or for someone who operated on the grown-up version of these principles? It’s something I see all too often.

 Monday Morning Perspective

“Maturity: Be able to stick with a job until it is finished. Be able to bear an injustice without having to get even. Be able to carry money without spending it. Do your duty without being supervised.” -Ann Landers

There are many ways to deal with childish behavior, but few are as effective as direct conversation. What works for a toddler will also work with an adult.When my four-year-old son does something atrocious (which he’s very talented at doing), it’s not enough to simply correct the issue. When he throws a block across the room, taking away the toy is not a sufficient reaction. Setting boundaries, enforcing standards, and applying corrective measures isn’t just something reserved for children. It’s absolutely necessary to do the same with adults too.

Why do most employees lack resolve and follow-through? Because very few companies enforce standards down to the lowest level.

Why do leaders operate on Toddler Laws? Because no one is holding them accountable to greater performance standards.

If you think it’s time for someone you know to grow up and start leading with purpose, give him or her the straight talk they need. Then get out of the way and see what they do with it.

Being a great leader takes all of the skills of a great parent. As a parent you’re either teaching lessons or demonstrating them. Just be sure you’re teaching and demonstrating the lessons you want those around you to emulate. Whether they are five or forty five- It’s always “Monkey See, Monkey Do”.

Have a wonderful week!

Warmest Regards,
Crystal Dyer

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This past weekend I traveled all the way from Texas with three small boys who were eager to see their Grandma and Grandpa and are hoping with all their might to see snow while we visit in Missouri.

It’s Spring Break, and my oldest son, Aidan, is just beginning to pay closer attention to people around him and ask questions of me that I never quite seem to be prepared to answer. We had just such a moment yesterday.

While driving through Oklahoma we had to stop to get gas in a small pass-through kind of town. It had been steadily raining and the fog was thick. The temperature outside was a stark difference from the high 60’s we’d been enjoying the previous day in Texas. While I pumped gas, Aidan watched a homeless man ask me for some money to buy a cup of coffee. I gave him a few bills from my wallet and watched him go inside to make his purchase. After we filled our tank and took the necessary potty breaks, we pulled back out on the road to see that very same man walking away from the gas station toward a cardboard hut near the railroad tracks with a hot cup of coffee in one hand and a breakfast burrito in the other.

Aidan asked me why the man was “camping” in the rain. I told Aidan that I didn’t think he was camping, but that he might live there. It was obvious that Aidan was confused. I explained that sometimes people don’t have all of the blessings that we have, and so they don’t always have warm homes and hot food. Aidan looked at me with all of the clarity a six-year-old can have about homelessness and hunger, and said, “Mommy, I could give him my chores money. He needs it more than I need a remote control helicopter.”

I told him that was a nice thing to be willing to do, but that when he got older he would see that there were a lot of people around the world that have so much less than we do. It was important to be willing to help, but it was just as important to be thankful. I could see that for the first time, my oldest son was beginning to understand reality.

Have you considered it lately?

If we could shrink the earth’s population to a village of precisely 100 people, with all the existing human ratios remaining the same, it would look something like the following.  There would be:

57 Asians

21 Europeans

14 from the Western Hemisphere, both north and south

8 would be Africans

52 would be female

48 would be male

70 would be non-white;
30 would be white

70 would be non-Christian;
30 would be Christian

89 would be heterosexual;
11 would be homosexual

6 people would possess 59% of the entire world’s wealth, and ALL 6 would be from the United States!

80 would live in substandard housing

70 would be unable to read

50 would suffer from malnutrition

1 would be near death;

1 would be near birth;

1 (yes, only 1) would have a college education;

Only 1 would own a computer.

When one considers our world from such a compressed perspective, the need for acceptance, understanding and education becomes glaringly apparent.

 

Monday Morning Perspective

“Thankfulness is the beginning of gratitude. Gratitude is the completion of thankfulness. Thankfulness may consist merely of words. Gratitude is shown in acts.”

-Henri Frederic Amiel

 

So let’s consider the implications of reality…

If you have food in the refrigerator, clothes on your back, a roof overhead and a place to sleep, you are richer than 75% of this world.

If you woke up this morning with more health than illness, you are more blessed than the million who will not survive this week.

If you have money in the bank, in your wallet, and spare change in a dish someplace, you are among the top 8% of the world’s wealthy.

If you can attend a church meeting without fear of harassment, arrest, torture, or death, you are more blessed than three billion people in the world.

If you have never experienced the danger of battle, the loneliness of imprisonment, the agony of torture, or the pangs of starvation, you are ahead of 500 million people in the world.

If you hold up your head with a smile on your face and are truly thankful, you are blessed because the majority can, but most do not.

If you can read this message, you are more blessed than over two billion people in the world who cannot read at all.

As you read this and are reminded how life is in the rest of the world, remember just how blessed we really are!

Have a wonderfully blessed week!

 

Warmest Regards,

Crystal Dyer

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ISSN: 2158-1355

Once during the early days of his travels, Buddha was walking from one town to another town with a few of his followers. While they were travelling, they happened to pass a lake. They decided to stop there and Buddha told one of his disciples, “I am thirsty. Would you get me some water from that lake there?”

The disciple walked down to the edge of the lake. When he reached it, he noticed that some people were washing clothes in the water and, right at that moment, a heavy cart started crossing through the lake. As a result, the water became very muddy, very turbid.

The disciple thought, “How can I give this muddy water to Buddha to drink?”

So he came back and told Buddha, “The water in there is very muddy. I don’t think it is fit to drink.”

After about half an hour, again Buddha asked the same disciple to go back to the lake and get him some water to drink. The disciple obediently returned to the lake’s edge.

This time he found that the lake had absolutely clear water in it. The mud had settled down and the water above it looked fit to drink, so he collected some water in a pot and brought it to Buddha.

Buddha looked at the water, and then he looked up at the disciple.  He said, “See what you did to make the water clean? You let it be. The mud settled down naturally and you got clear water.”

Buddha continued, “Your mind is also like that. When it is disturbed, just let it be. It will settle down on its own. You don’t have to put in any effort to calm it down. It will happen naturally- it is as effortless as breathing if you only give it time.”

 

Monday Morning Perspective

“Tension is who you think you should be.  Relaxation is who you are.”  ~Chinese Proverb

“If people concentrated on the really important things in life, there’d be a shortage of fishing poles.”  ~Doug Larson

 

What did Buddha emphasize to his followers?

He shared the truest of facts- that when the entire world is buzzing around you, and your stress marks every situation as an emergency, your mind is so clouded that you can’t see through the muck.

Taking just a few minutes of each day to mentally decompress and find a level of internal peace will make all the difference in the world.

When there is peace inside you, that peace permeates to the outside. It spreads around you and into your environment, such that the people around you start feeling that peace and grace too.

Anyone can throw gasoline on a brush fire, just like anyone can create an “emergency” out of thin air. It’s far better to know how to put it out than how to fan the flames.

One of the smartest men I’ve ever worked with had a sign that hung in his office that read, “Failure to plan on your part does not constitute an emergency on mine”.  Some people really have it figured out!

Have a wonderfully “clear” week!

 

Warmest Regards,

Crystal Dyer

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ISSN: 2158-1355

A mother, wishing to encourage her son’s progress at the piano, bought tickets to a performance to be given by one of the greatest pianists of the era.

When the evening arrived, they found their seats near the front of the concert hall and eyed the majestic Steinway waiting on the stage. Soon the mother found a friend to talk to, and the boy slipped away.

At eight o’clock, the lights in the auditorium began to dim, the spotlights came on, and only then did they notice the boy – up on the piano bench, innocently picking out “Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star.”

His mother gasped in shock and embarrassment but before she could retrieve her son, the master himself appeared on the stage and quickly moved to the keyboard.

He whispered gently to the boy, “Don’t quit. Keep playing.” Leaning over, the great pianist reached down with his left hand and began filling in the bass accompaniment. Soon his right arm reached around the other side and improvised a delightful obbligato.

Together, the old master and the young novice held the crowd mesmerized with their blended and beautiful music.

 

Monday Morning Perspective

“Help others achieve their dreams and you will achieve yours.” -Les Brown

In all our lives, we receive helping hands – some we notice, and some we don’t. Equally we ourselves have countless opportunities to provide helping hands to others.

I’ve been in a position to keenly notice the helping hands in my life these past few months with my husband deployed to Afghanistan, and I must admit that I’m incredibly thankful for those people who have come into my life and been pillars of support and friendship when the all-to-common deployment snafus arise. You know you’ve found a true friend when they accept you at your worst, support you in your dreams, and never keep a tally of the ways they’ve shown you kindness. These friends are rare and most precious, but I’m blessed to have them.

When the story above hit my inbox, I realized than I’ve been both the pianist and the child. We enrich each other’s lives through simple gifts of time and patience, the transfer of knowledge, and often from the lending of a hand.

Little of what we achieve is done without learning from others. Likewise, we benefit from friendships that challenge us and keep us growing. Sometimes we’ll be like the child- ready to receive help and assistance. Other times we’ll be prepared to be the master- when lending our gifts to others will make even our music all the sweeter.

The real mastery comes in sharing what we receive with others. When you find yourself giving, you notice you’re getting too.

Have a wonderful week!

 

Warmest Regards,

Crystal Dyer

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ISSN: 2158-1355

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